Advice Goddess | Thursday, March 15,2012

Lard of the Dance

When I got married, I was a slim 6 feet 2, but I’ve gained a lot of weight. My wife gained about 20 pounds but recently lost that and more. I’ve been as high as 265, but I’m now at 2

Advice Goddess | Thursday, March 8,2012

The spinster cycle

By Amy Alkon

I’m a 32-year-old woman with a Ph.D. I’m beyond happy with my career path, but I’m not meeting men I’m impressed with or inspired to see again. A girlfriend sent me a New York

Advice Goddess | Thursday, March 1,2012

Have a peasant day

By Amy Alkon

Your answer to “Roseless,” the woman bemoaning her boyfriend’s lack of “romantic ambition,” hit a nerve with me. My wife of 19 years and I shared equally in raising our t

Advice Goddess | Thursday, February 23,2012

Looking for The Gaia next door

By Amy Alkon

I’m an Occupy girl, age 45, into eco-shamanism and planetary consciousness stuff. I’ve mostly dated engineers with a playful side who initially seemed open to my interests but quickly beca

Advice Goddess | Thursday, February 16,2012

Dim and her

By Amy Alkon

I’m having a whirlwind romance with a man I met online on Thanksgiving. I moved across the country to live with him on Dec. 20, and we’re now building a life together. The problem is I hav

Advice Goddess | Thursday, February 9,2012

World Wide Web of lies

By Amy Alkon

Why do men OFFER (as in, announce unasked) that they aren’t dating anyone when that’s a lie? I’m a busy 30-something woman, meeting men almost exclusively online. A guy will often te

Advice Goddess | Thursday, February 9,2012

Baby, I need your oven

By Amy Alkon

I love good food and wine, but I hate cooking and I’m bad at it. When you’re dating, it seems like you’re supposed to cook your partner dinner at a certain point, especially if you&r

Advice Goddess | Thursday, January 26,2012

Code Goo

By Amy Alkon

I’m a 33-year-old nurse in a five-month “friends with benefits” thing with a doctor co-worker. I am only 18 months out of an abusive 10-year relationship and wanted something fun and

Advice Goddess | Thursday, January 19,2012

Witchful Witchful thinking

By Amy Alkon

I’m a retired pastor in my 50s. A nearby church wanted my help with their Christmas musical, and I asked my wife of five years, who played bass at my church, to join me. She became angry at this

Advice Goddess | Thursday, January 5,2012

I smell a rut

By Amy Alkon

I just got dumped by a guy who swore he was ready to settle down (after years of serial monogamy). His relationship history reminded me of the man you wrote about recently who had been married and div