A history of Springfield romances
Six love stories to put you in the mood
Love to last a lifetime
Sarah Blanchard and Stuart Paterson
When Sarah Lee Blanchard of Springfield entered the University of Michigan in the fall of 1961, she had no idea she would cross paths with the love of her life. In fact, she thought she had already found him: the dark-haired, brown-eyed beauty was going steady with her high school sweetheart, a 6-foot-8-inch star basketball player who had led Springfield High to the state championship in 1959 and was now captain of the University of Michigan basketball team. Sarah had spent two years at Mills College in California but had transferred to Michigan to be closer to him.
Fate intervened in September of 1962, when the cousin of one of Sarah’s roommates invited himself over to their apartment to watch a football game on their television. Stuart Paterson was a 22-year-old first-year graduate student in the economics department. More than 50 years later, he can still recall the green skirt and soft, cream-colored sweater Sarah had on when he first laid eyes on her. She was beautiful, Stuart thought. And though he envied the man who would make her his wife, he didn’t dream at that point that it would be him. Stuart had purchased an engagement ring for his college sweetheart and was planning to propose at Christmas.
Fate intervened again, first when Stuart received a “Dear John” letter from his girlfriend in November, then when Sarah and her boyfriend broke up over the holidays.
Sarah and Stuart started dating in January of 1963. By August, they were engaged, and by December, they were married. They spent 48 beautiful years together, parted only by Sarah’s death in September, 2011. Looking back on the life he shared with his wife, Stuart reflected, “During our marriage, love and respect deepened as we raised three boys and grew in our chosen professions. We gave each other space and independence. And we thought of ourselves as lovers and best friends.”
After Sarah died, Stuart composed the following tribute to her, moved by a heart filled with love for the woman who made his life worth living:
SARAH LEE BLANCHARD PATERSON
June 30, 1941-Sept. 17, 2011
“Where-e’er you walk, cool gales shall fan the glade,
“Trees, where you sit, shall crowd into a shade,
“Where-e’er you tread, the blushing flow’rs shall rise,
“And all things flourish where-e’er you turn your eyes.”
– Alexander Pope, “Summer”1709
Every day we were together I told Sarah, “I love you.” And each time she said, “I love you, too.” These were the last words we said to each other.
Almost every day I told her she was beautiful and she replied, “You’re crazy, but I’m glad you think so.”
And almost every day I told her she was the most wonderful person who ever lived and she would say, “You’re crazy, but I’m glad you think so.”
Well, she was beautiful. And she was, for me, the most wonderful person who ever lived.
Sarah was loving, kind and forgiving. She was thoughtful, intelligent, and wise. She was disciplined, hardworking and loyal. She was caring and thoughtful of others. She was playful, joyful, and fun.
She was discerning. When she told me someone was a friend I knew immediately that they had those qualities that are to be treasured.
She loved her sons and their families beyond words. She was happiest when she was with them and especially her grandchildren.
In my eyes Sarah was perfect. And she would say, “You’re crazy, but I’m glad you think so.”
I do know beyond any doubt that “All things flourished where-e’er she turned her eyes.”
Sometimes love really does last a lifetime.
Ever full of love for you
Mary Nash and John T. Stuart
John T. Stuart’s new law partner, Abraham Lincoln, moved to town in April of 1837. As momentous as this event was to the history of Springfield, at the time, 29-year-old John had other things on his mind: he was absolutely smitten with a lovely young woman in Jacksonville, and on his last visit there she had accepted his proposal of marriage. When he returned home he put pen to paper to express his feelings to his future bride:
… The word wife and connected with you Mary fills my heart with gladness.
Since my return from Jacksonville (and a rough ride it was) in thought and in feeling, I am an altered man. I now feel as if I had something worth living for, One dear object to love (and will you let me say it?) one by whom that love is returned.
You know I have been a day dreamer but my day dreams (when I have time to dream) are changed; they were always bright, but were then Fancy’s offspring, and without an object, I no longer build airy castles in Fancy’s bright land without a “local habitation or a name.” I now think and dream of my own dear Mary…(April 14, 1837).
Mary was the 20-year-old niece of Judge Samuel D. Lockwood, then one of the Supreme Court justices of Illinois. Orphaned as a teenager, Mary had gone to live with her distinguished uncle and aunt in Jacksonville. It was there that she first met John T. Stuart, a handsome, well-educated, successful young lawyer and Whig politician. John was charmed by Mary’s intelligence, her independent spirit, and her fine manners. During the six months that elapsed between their engagement and wedding, his thoughts often turned towards Jacksonville:
“The time passes off to me very heavily, my thoughts are in Jacksonville, I picture to myself how you looked and what you said when I saw you and until Wednesday I will imagine what you will say… I leave you to imagine all I would say were I to write all the feelings of my heart, it is ever full of love for you and I now send it to you. Good night I will now go and gaze at the stars and think of Mary….” (July 31, 1837)
As the weeks crept by, John grew increasingly impatient to leave his bachelor days behind and commit himself to his beloved Mary. Mary, in turn, seems to have suffered cold feet in anticipation of their wedding:
…Your presence is daily becoming more necessary to my happiness and I am sometimes surprised at myself (old bachelor as I am) to find how my every thought and feeling have some relation to my beloved Mary. No plan is laid for the future in which you do not bear a prominent part, no hope springs up that is not brightened by your image. You peep from the windows of all my airy castles. The time I hope is near when I shall feel no more the sorrows of absence, six weeks will soon roll round again and then – but I remember that subject, the wedding day and becoming a wife, gives you a long face and had better stop it….(Sept. 15, 1837)
Whatever reservations Mary had about marriage were fleeting, and she and John wed on Oct. 25, 1837. Over the course of their marriage they had seven children and buried two. They remained devoted to each other until parted by John’s death in 1885.
The only man for her
Lydia Matteson and John McGinnis
Lydia Matteson seemed to have it all. The daughter of Illinois governor Joel Matteson (1853-1857), she had wealth and the privilege of moving in Springfield’s most elite social circles, a fine education from Monticello Female Seminary in Godfrey, Ill., and personal charm and beauty. This attractive young woman had no shortage of suitors – rising young men who plied her with gifts and love letters. By the time she was 20 years old she had been courted by “the best in the country,” according to her sister, Clara, among them John A. Logan, the Illinois state representative who would go on to become a celebrated general during the Civil War.
But Lydia had eyes for only one man. Her heart belonged to John McGinnis, president of the Quincy Bank in Quincy. The young man returned her affection and asked her to be his wife. Her parents, however, refused to consent to the engagement. No explicit reason for this refusal has been recorded, although an item in the Aug. 19, 1852, Illinois State Journal might shed some light on the matter: “On the 13th, there was a resolution in the Senate for the arrest of John McGinnis for refusing to answer questions by the committee on frauds.” The alleged fraud, it seems, had to do with an appropriation of $300,000 for clothing for soldiers in California, New Mexico and Oregon, and an additional $20,000 for “the introduction of camels on the plains.”
Lydia was brokenhearted and determined that if she could not have the man of her choice, she would have no one at all. She retired to her room and refused to attend any of her parents’ lavish receptions, refused all invitations to dinners and parties, and refused all advances by other prospective suitors. John, in the meantime, remained steadfast in his devotion to her. Finally, her parents had no choice but to give in and grant her permission to marry the man of her dreams.
Many people in town, Mary Lincoln among them, hoped that the Mattesons would use the wedding as an excuse to throw one last grand, public party before the governor left office and vacated the mansion the following January. “The hour of her patient lover’s deliverance is at hand,” Mary wrote her sister a few days before the wedding. “Some of us who had a handsome dress for the season thought it would be in good taste for Mrs Matteson, in consideration of their being about to leave their present habitation, to give a general reception. Lydia has always been so retiring that she would be very averse to so public a display.”
The wedding took place at the Governor’s Mansion on Nov. 27, 1856 – the first wedding ever held in the new official residence, which was only completed a year prior. John and Lydia went on to have five children and enjoy 42 years of marriage before Lydia died in 1898. John followed in death three years later.
All the world to me
Stephen T. Logan and America Bush
Lincoln’s second law partner, Stephen T. Logan, is remembered as a formidable legal mind with a crabby temperament, but history often forgets that he was a tender and devoted husband to his wife, America Bush.
Stephen was born in Franklin County, Ky., on Feb. 24, 1800. His mother died when he was two years old, and his father died when he was 21. By that time Stephen was already making his own way in the world. He had moved to Glasgow, Ky., to study law under his uncle at the age of 17 and was admitted to the bar two years later. While there he became acquainted with a teenager named America Bush, eldest daughter of the president of the local bank. America was known as a “lady of refined manners, of unaffected piety and unpretentious benevolence.” Stephen fell in love with her, and the couple was married in 1823, when America was just 17 years old.
The couple became parents to eight children, who appeared at regular intervals between 1824 and 1845: David, William, Christopher, Mary, Sally, Stephen, Jennie and Kate. William died at age 6, Stephen died at age 8 and Christopher died at 21, leaving Stephen and America devastated but even more mindful of how much they meant to each other. A letter written from Stephen to America in 1850, after 27 years of marriage, sheds light on just how much this crusty lawyer loved his family:
My dear wife,
I have got almost homesick and out of all patience here…I do not think I will ever again for the sake of money undertake any thing to take me away from home so long. We may not have a great many years to live together and I feel that it is a higher duty as it certainly is a greater pleasure to be with you and our children and to endeavor to comfort and sustain each other than to make any further advance in worldly prosperity. I hope however that this absence will teach us to estimate more highly the privilege of being together and that we may as we ought to have such reflection as may be advantageous to us hereafter. We may sometime be separated and one of us left lonely and bereaved. I have often thought of this since I have been here; and how we ought to prepare for it. Before many years we must both leave this world but I rest in hope that we shall meet our little boys in a better one.
This place is very dull and uninteresting to me. I have indeed as I sometimes think too little interest in any thing out of my family and I am afraid I am too much bound within them – my wife and children seem like all the world to me and nothing else worth attention except as relate to them.
I shall come home as soon as it is possible for me to do so. Until which time I commend you all to the care of that kind providence which has so far preserved us.Your affectionate husband,
Stephen T. Logan
America’s death of a sudden illness in 1868 at age 62 left Stephen heartbroken; a neighbor reported that “though apparently composed, is in a quiver – a kind of trembling all the time,” and it was feared that “he too, will soon be called away.” The funeral took place in the Logans’ home on a cold, gloomy March morning. To onlookers, Stephen appeared “bowed down with anguish.” At the end of the service, he declined a last look at his beloved wife’s body. “Oh no!” he groaned. “I have taken my last look,” and, as a fellow mourner reported, “sobbed so, that all in the room were convulsed with weeping, merely from witnessing his deep grief.”
Stephen died in 1880. In his obituary, the Illinois State Journal observed that “all the affections of his heart were centered on his family, and he worked for them, not for himself…he was the kindest of husbands and the most affectionate of fathers. He lived the most of his life in his family.” He is buried in Oak Ridge Cemetery, surrounded in death, as he was in life, with those he loved best.
Eliza Condell and Arthur Wines
In 1897, young Cornell University student Arthur Wines gathered his courage and wrote a letter to the young woman he loved back in Springfield, declaring his love for her and asking her to be his wife. Timid, quiet Arthur admitted that he had admired her from afar since 1889, when he was a bashful high school senior and she was 17-year-old schoolgirl. “Sometimes I have thought I detected something more than indifference in your face, and manner, but your perfect modesty has never given me more than an uncertain hope that you could ever care for anything dearer than friendship for me,” he wrote, yet “If I could know that your love was the one certain thing in life, I would care but little for the uncertainty of all the rest.”
Eliza accepted him, and the couple devised a plan for the future: Arthur would finish his studies in the summer of 1899, then depart for Alaska, where his father would secure him a position as a census taker. At the end of a year and a half, Arthur would return to marry Eliza, and the couple would start their lives bolstered by the money Arthur earned in Alaska.
All went well in the beginning. Arthur bade farewell to his love on July 1 and departed for Alaska. The couple exchanged affectionate letters full of heartfelt feelings and excitement about their lives together.
Their rosy plans for the future began to unravel in September of 1899. After a grueling month at a mining camp near Cape Nome, the ship transporting Arthur back to Seattle narrowly escaped shipwreck. As the damaged vessel limped back to port, supplies were exhausted and passengers were forced to go without provisions for several days.
Arthur was traumatized. Several years before, a nervous breakdown had forced him to put his college studies on hold while he recovered his faculties, and since that time his mental state had been fragile. Now he felt himself on the verge of another breakdown. Desperate to be with Eliza, he sent her a telegram promising to send her money and asking her to travel to Seattle to marry him immediately.
Arthur’s father and Eliza’s family intervened, urging the couple to wait until Arthur was financially and mentally stable before marrying. Disappointed but resigned, they resolved to stick to their original plan and wait until Arthur finished his work in Alaska before marrying.
The strain of his experience on the ship, coupled with the stress of being far from home, proved too much for Arthur to handle, and he quit his position and returned to his father’s house in Washington, D.C. While there he was placed under the care of a physician, who reported that Arthur was hysterical and incoherent, especially on the topic of Eliza. Arthur believed that he and Eliza shared a telepathic communication, that Eliza was on her way to him, that his parents were hiding her from him downstairs.
Meanwhile Eliza remained steadfast in her devotion to him. “You are not crazy and I am not going to break our engagement,” she wrote. “It will not be long before God will allow us to be together. I look up through my tears and the future when we can be together seems so bright – so happy.”
Meanwhile, Arthur’s his mental condition continued to deteriorate. His grasp on reality grew ever more tenuous until he started questioning whether the people around him were truly real. In desperation, his parents checked him into a mental hospital. Three days later, Arthur strangled himself with his bed covering. Eliza was crushed. She lived to be 102 years old and never married – possibly her heart still belonged to the man she had given it to more than 70 years before, the man who did not live to become her husband.
Love is eternal
Abraham Lincoln and Mary Todd
She came into the marriage with looks, money, and a good name. He brought nothing but his talent. In the end, he became a legend, and their lives together became the subject of endless fascination.
Mary Todd came to Springfield on an extended visit to her sister Elizabeth in 1839. By 1840, local gossip linked her name with that of a rising young attorney, Abraham Lincoln. Often they would go out with groups of their young friends, on picnics, sleigh rides, trips to Jacksonville, and just as often Lincoln would call on Mary at her sister and brother-in-law’s house. In many ways they seemed to be opposites – he was tall and thin, she was short and plump. He was quiet and introverted, she was bubbly and talkative. He was even-keeled, she had a quick temper. Yet there were things that they had in common, too. Both had been born in Kentucky. Both had lost their mothers at an early age – Mary at 6, Lincoln at 9. Both were fond of poetry and recited stanza after stanza to each other. And both were ardent Whigs, swept up in the political fervor of the times. Friends remember that Lincoln was drawn to Mary’s charm, her quick wit, her skill at conversation, and her good looks. Mary, for her part, saw the potential for greatness in Lincoln and believed in him steadfastly and from the very beginning. In the fall of 1840 they seem to have reached an understanding about marriage.
Then something happened in January, 1841. No one knows exactly what – historians to this day still debate the reasons Lincoln and Mary parted ways, suggesting everything from disapproval on the part of Mary’s family to Lincoln’s feelings for another woman.
Whatever the cause for their split, Lincoln and Mary were apart for 18 months. They were finally reconciled through the intervention of their friends, Simeon and Eliza Francis, who invited them to their house (without the other’s knowledge), put them in the parlor and said “be friends again.” And be friends again they did, only this time in secret. Lincoln and Mary would sneak off to meet each other at the homes of mutual friends; not even Mary’s sister, Elizabeth, knew that they had gotten back together.
By early fall 1842 it is clear Lincoln had marriage on his mind. He wrote to his friend Joshua Speed, now newly married and living in Kentucky, pestering him with questions about marriage – was Speed happy? Was it everything he had hoped? Was he glad he got married? The answers he got seemed to satisfy him, and things finally came together for the Lincolns in early November, 1842.
On Tuesday, Nov. 1, Lincoln stopped Elizabeth’s husband, Ninian Edwards, in the street and announced that he and Mary would be getting married that night at the parsonage. Ninian was understandably flabbergasted – he had no idea that they were even seeing each other again. After he regained his composure he protested against the plan of marrying at the parsonage – it was too close to an elopement, which wouldn’t look right in society. “Mary is my ward, and she must be married from my home,” he said. Then he went home and told his wife that she must prepare a wedding supper.
Elizabeth, who at that time was seven months pregnant, with a five-year-old and a three-year-old underfoot, burst into tears when she heard the news. She was hurt that Mary hadn’t confided in her, and upset that she did not have enough time to make proper arrangements for a family wedding. She lamented to Mary that on such short notice she didn’t even have time to put together a proper dinner – she’d have to send to the baker for gingerbread and beer. “Well, that’s good enough for plebeians,” Mary replied, tossing her head.
The Lincolns were married in the Edwards’ parlor on Friday, Nov. 4, 1842. The company was small, only about 30 people, and the bride was wearing a borrowed dress. Recollections vary on Lincoln’s mood during the wedding. Some people remember that he looked as cheerful as ever, while others remember him looking like a sheep going to slaughter. But perhaps his feelings were best expressed by the inscription on the ring that, when slipped on his bride’s finger, joined her to him for all time: “Love Is Eternal.”
Erika Holst is curator of collections at the Springfield Art Association.