IllinoisTimes - Advice Goddess http://illinoistimes.com/articles.sec-109-1-advice-goddess.html Sat, 21 Oct 17 00:00:00 -0500 en hourly 1 While you were sweeping http://illinoistimes.com/article-19261-while-you-were-sweeping.html While you were sweeping
My boyfriend unplugs my laptop when it’s charging and plugs the charger into his, despite knowing that I need my computer charged for work. This is actually part of a pattern – a general lack of c...]]>
Pay Pal http://illinoistimes.com/article-19248-pay-pal.html Pay Pal
 An older male friend keeps paying for me – buying me meals and clothes. Am I making a mistake in accepting? I’ve repeatedly made clear that I have no romantic interest in him. I’m a strugg...]]>
Sparks and recreation http://illinoistimes.com/article-19203-sparks-and-recreation.html Sparks and recreation
I am a 32-year-old woman who has never been in a relationship with a man I’m actually attracted to. The men I’ve ended up with really pursued me, and they were all smart, funny and kind, so I thou...]]>
James and the Giant Leech http://illinoistimes.com/article-19177-james-and-the-giant-leech.html James and the Giant Leech
 I’ve been dating this girl for just over a month, and she never offers to pay for anything. I was okay with this in the beginning as I saw it as a courtship thing. I guess I wonder whether thi...]]>
Loathe story http://illinoistimes.com/article-19166-loathe-story.html Loathe story
My boyfriend who dumped me says he wants to be friends (talk to me, see me sometimes), but I’m not ready for that because I’m still in love with him. A female co-worker said that if he can be frie...]]>
The gym reaper http://illinoistimes.com/article-19115-the-gym-reaper.html The gym reaper
This annoying guy at my gym keeps asking me out. I’m always polite, saying, “Would love to, but sorry, I’m really busy.” And then I move to another part of the gym. I’d go at a different tim...]]>
The sum of his beers http://illinoistimes.com/article-19090-the-sum-of-his-beers.html The sum of his beers
I’ve been with my boyfriend for nine months. We are both in our late 20s and go out drinking a lot with our friends. I’ve noticed that when he’s drunk, he’ll be super affectionate and say real...]]>
Yawn Juan http://illinoistimes.com/article-19065-yawn-juan.html Yawn Juan
My friend and I are debating why it is that men don’t want you when you want them, yet they’re all gung-ho when you aren’t interested. She believes that we just want what we can’t have. Could...]]>
Sofa’s choiced http://illinoistimes.com/article-19046-sofa%25E2%2580%2599s-choiced.html Sofa’s choiced
My husband has a great body, but since we got married two years ago, he has completely stopped working out. One reason I was initially so attracted to him was that he was in great shape. I go to Pilat...]]>
Knight of the living dead http://illinoistimes.com/article-19003-knight-of-the-living-dead.html Knight of the living dead
When my husband comes home from a stressful day at work, he likes to play shoot-‘em-up games on his phone. He says it relaxes him. I’d like to connect and talk before he goes into his mental man c...]]>
Watercolor under the bridge http://illinoistimes.com/article-18977-watercolor-under-the-bridge.html Watercolor under the bridge
A guy my girlfriend dated seven years ago is now an aspiring artist, and he gave my girlfriend one of his paintings. It’s abstract, splashy and horrible. I find it disrespectful of him to give it to...]]>
No more Mr. Knife guy http://illinoistimes.com/article-18948-no-more-mr-knife-guy.html No more Mr. Knife guy
You’ve answered some questions about online dating recently, but I haven’t seen you mention dating sites that do criminal background checks. Do you think it’s a smart idea to sign up for one of...]]>
To have and to mold http://illinoistimes.com/article-18933-to-have-and-to-mold.html To have and to mold

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Lewd Skywalker http://illinoistimes.com/article-18900-lewd-skywalker.html Lewd Skywalker
A guy friend of 20 years and I once fooled around years ago. Though he has a girlfriend, he keeps throwing sexual remarks into our conversations, sending inappropriate texts and asking me to send nake...]]>
The truth about stats and dogs http://illinoistimes.com/article-18888-the-truth-about-stats-and-dogs.html The truth about stats and dogs
I’m a woman looking for a new boyfriend and considering various online dating sites. Some have long questionnaires and they factor your answers into an “algorithm” to match you with the best pos...]]>
Plenty of dead fish http://illinoistimes.com/article-18853-plenty-of-dead-fish.html Plenty of dead fish
My girlfriend and I broke up recently, so I’m back in the dating pool. Do you think online dating is a good way to meet people? If so, which are the best dating sites? – Diving InAsking “Which d...]]>
Jack and jilted http://illinoistimes.com/article-18829-jack-and-jilted.html Jack and jilted
My boyfriend of three years cheated on me, and when I found out, he dumped me. I’m getting over it, but boy, it’s a slow process. Some days I’m fine, and others I feel super sad or really angry....]]>
Our bodies, our selfies http://illinoistimes.com/article-18813-our-bodies-our-selfies.html Our bodies, our selfies
My girlfriend of two years had me help her download photos from her phone, and I found about two dozen close-ups of her private parts. She said she was “just curious.” Well, okay, but why not use...]]>
Speaking ill of the dud http://illinoistimes.com/article-18778-speaking-ill-of-the-dud.html Speaking ill of the dud
I have a close friend whose relationships always end badly. The new guy she’s dating has a reputation as a user. My friend’s very successful, and I believe he’s dating her for her business conta...]]>
Silicone Valley http://illinoistimes.com/article-18770-silicone-valley.html Silicone Valley
I’m a guy who hates fake boobs. I’ve dumped women I really liked upon discovering they have them. Total dealbreaker for me. However, I obviously can’t just ask whether a woman has them. What sho...]]>
Sight for Thor eyes http://illinoistimes.com/article-18725-sight-for-thor-eyes.html Sight for Thor eyes
I’m a 35-year-old masculine gay man. I’ve had relationships with (masculine) gay men, but I’m often attracted to masculine straight men. I’m not looking to “turn” them, and I’m ready for...]]>
Wedding his appetite http://illinoistimes.com/article-18691-wedding-his-appetite.html Wedding his appetite
I have this disturbing pattern. I’ve dated three different guys, each of whom said he didn’t want to get married, wasn’t ready, whatever. But then, the next girl they met … BAM! Walking down t...]]>
Tale of whoa http://illinoistimes.com/article-18664-tale-of-whoa.html Tale of whoa
A dear friend who’s also a co-worker just went through a breakup with her girlfriend, and she’s devastated. I don’t know what to tell her. I’ve tried everything: You dodged a bullet; it�...]]>
Don yawn http://illinoistimes.com/article-18640-don-yawn.html Don yawn
I’m a 40-year-old man who can’t seem to keep a relationship going for more than a year. There’s never bitter fighting or betrayal. I just gradually lose interest. I can’t blame my girlfriends...]]>
Swarm fuzzies http://illinoistimes.com/article-18629-swarm-fuzzies.html Swarm fuzzies
I got in an argument with my boyfriend about the reason not to have sex outside our relationship. He said he wouldn’t do it because he wouldn’t want to hurt me. I said he shouldn’t want to be wi...]]>
Caveheart http://illinoistimes.com/article-18577-caveheart.html Caveheart
 I’m a woman in my 30s. I love parties and talking to people, and thank God, because I attend networking events for work. My boyfriend, on the other hand, is an introvert, hates talking to stra...]]>
Jihad me at hello http://illinoistimes.com/article-18552-jihad-me-at-hello.html Jihad me at hello
I’m a man in my mid-30s, and I’m dating a woman I really love. We match each other on so many levels, and I thought we had a really great thing. But recently, she seems to want more than I can giv...]]>
Greed between the lines http://illinoistimes.com/article-18517-greed-between-the-lines.html Greed between the lines
I love my boyfriend; however, I feel bad that he never buys me presents. He did when we were dating, and he buys himself extravagant stuff. But he got me nothing for my birthday and only some trinkets...]]>
Insecurity blanket http://illinoistimes.com/article-18479-insecurity-blanket.html Insecurity blanket
I’m extremely insecure about my looks, though objectively I know I’m pretty. I constantly ask my boyfriend for reassurance. He gives it to me but feels bad that I feel this way. Now I’m worrying...]]>
Loot conquers all http://illinoistimes.com/article-18451-loot-conquers-all.html Loot conquers all
 Nobody expects a free meal from a restaurant. So what’s with wedding guests who think it’s acceptable to give no gift or just $100 from two people? My understanding is that you are supposed...]]>